Having a #MatrimonialDispute between married couples is very normal. Husband and wife often disagree on a number of things. This is the normal wear and tear of marriage. Sometimes the disagreement escalates to such an extent that the wife is encouraged to misuse the law and file a #FalseCase against the husband in the police station or the court. Due to gender-biased laws of our country favouring the wife, the husband and his family face #FalseCases of IPC #498A, #Maintenance, #DomesticViolence, etc.
Fighting a court battle against a #FalseCase is very frustrating and tiring. Both the husband and wife are drained emotionally, financially and mentally.
It has been acknowledged by many experts and male victims of the #FalseCase that fighting a #FalseCase is more #psychological and very little legal.
Here are some important mindsets male victims who face false #MatrimonialCases have:
Victim Mindset: This is seen in almost every male victim at the early stage of the #FalseCase. In the initial stage, when the husband receives a call from the police station or summons from court, he faces a lot of panic. There is a lot of confusion among the whole family of the husband. They are scared that their reputation will be lost if #society comes to know about these court cases. They hide from #society and do not discuss anything with their friends and relatives about these #FalseCases. Due to this, the whole family of the husband lives in a constant state of fear and anxiety. This disturbs their sleep, daily routine, peace of mind and their entire life. It becomes very painful for the husband to see his old parents getting dragged into courts and police stations and the same is true for parents as well, as they want well-being for their son. This also causes a lot of stress in the relationships between the in-laws and the husband’s side of the sister of the victim’s husband as their names are also included by the wife in the complaint. Overall, the mental health of the entire family is disturbed drastically and the husband or some family members even suffer clinical depression or choose to end their lives.
Warrior Mindset: Some male victims of #FalseCases take efforts to educate themselves and get aware of the legal aspects of the case and gain confidence in fighting it. They refuse to surrender to the pressures of these #FalseCases and choose to oppose this form of #LegalTerrorism where the wife demands huge sums of money in the name of settlement or alimony to drop the charges. These victims often are very socially active and live their life as of nothing has changed. They stop hiding from their relatives and #society. On the contrary, they talk openly about their court cases and create awareness of how many wives are misusing the law in #society. These victims also find support groups of like-minded people and other victims who face a similar situation. They have a positive outlook on life and also counsel other victims who are in the initial stages of their cases or who continue to have a victim mindset. One of the most important things one should do to develop this warrior mindset is to enrol himself in such support groups where there is peer-to-peer learning and constant engagement in each other’s cases to exchange the learnings. The warrior mindset victim doesn’t look for sympathy from #society or puts the blame on his wife for putting him through this situation. Rather, he becomes a Men’s Rights Activist (MRA) and dedicates to creating awareness about the misuse of the law and judicial machinery to settle personal scores. They fight not just their personal case but also the entire feminist mindset that the #society has which the wives very conveniently use to justify their #FalseCase.
Victory Mindset: This is the highest level of mindset one can have while facing #FalseCases of matrimonial disputes. At this stage, the victims evolve spiritually and emotionally to such a level that they stop worrying about the outcome of their cases/disputes. They are always open to helping fellow victims and other people in general. They often practice karma of the highest order. The most important characteristic of people with this mindset is they do not hold any grudges against their wife or their opponent even when she subjects them to such agony. They have a sense of forgiveness towards their opponents. They have the natural tendency of giving rather than receiving. They put themselves on their priority list and their happiness doesn’t depend on an external source. They develop a larger purpose in life and work for bigger and better causes. For most victims, this mindset is never achieved. But this mindset very much helps them in their personal cases as well. With this mindset, their chances of having good victories in their personal cases also increase.
Remember, the transition from Victim Mindset to Warrior Mindset and eventually to Victory Mindset is a journey and it is very important to be in a support group such as Nyay Prayaas Foundation where people prepare and help you for this wonderful journey.
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