Secrets about protecting your job while having a false 498A case that nobody will tell you

It is a very well-established fact that IPC 498A is one of the most misused laws in India. When a male victim (husband) faces a false 498A case, the most common fear he has is related to the security of his job or professional work life. Most false 498A victims consider leaving the job or leaving a good opportunity for a promotion at the workplace. In the initial stage, the husband has a victim mindset. Due to this, he does not share the details of his case stage with anyone, including his colleagues at his workplace.

Male victims often fear that if their colleagues will come to know about their cases, they will make fun of them. If their superiors or managers will come to know about their cases, they will take it in a negative way and think that he is mentally disturbed and not focused on the job. Moreover, frequent visits to the police stations or the courts require victims to take a lot of holidays or leaves which affects their job.

Here are some tips that will help you to deal with your workplace, if you are facing a false 498A case:

Accept the reality: Most male victims have unrealistic expectations when they face a false 498A case. They think these cases are temporary and this situation will be over soon. Many times these victims get under pressure of settlement at the police station or court mediation and take back their 498A wives. The reality is that these cases take time to resolve. There are different stages to these cases and the process is very slow. It might take years to reach the other end of the tunnel. The male victims have to be accordingly prepared mentally, as their wives who have filed cases are mentally prepared for the next stage with the help of their lawyers. Having patience is the key to winning these false cases.

Get into a support group: No matter how big is the problem, there are always fellow victims who are in the same problem as you are and are successfully handling it. It is very important to become a part of these groups as these members and fellow victims understand your pains and help you by giving mental and moral support. Nyay Prayaas Foundation is one such support group where you can gain multiple benefits. Such groups give knowledge on legal aspects, help to change your mindset and eventually help you to develop the right strategy to win your cases.

Change your mindset: As discussed in a separate blog What mindset you should have to deal with society if you are facing false case of matrimonial dispute, male victims have three kinds of mindsets which are The Victim Mindset, The Warrior Mindset and The Victory Mindset. When you have a victim mindset, you expect sympathy from everyone around you. When you have a warrior mindset you have the characteristics of an activist and start talking about your cases openly and you also start creating awareness about the misuse of the law and how male victims are forced to give huge amounts of money for settlements. You educate people around you about the toxic feminism prevailing in our society and how many people are being used by this ideology. When you have the victory mindset you develop the higher purpose in life. You realise the real opponent is not your wife who has filed multiple false cases on you, but the mindset of fake feminism that exists in our society and many males, as well as female members, are victims of this mindset. You start to fight against this mindset and eventually you help society at large. As a result, you also start to get victories in your personal cases.

Create awareness of the misuse of law: Once you have a Warrior or Victory Mindset, you become comfortable in talking openly about your personal cases and how you and thousands of other victims are harassed by the judiciary. When you do that, people at your workplace and also in your personal lives start to see your side of the story and start to acknowledge your struggles. This motivates them to help you in their limited capacities. It is seen in many cases that when you start to discuss false cases and fake feminism with your superiors, they support you by giving flexible working hours and even approving leaves to make you available for your court dates. They assign you to work accordingly. With Warrior or Victory Mindset, they start to observe that these false cases are not taking a toll on your head and you are able to perform and deliver your deadlines at your work. They start to appreciate you not only as a dedicated employee but as an individual. It becomes a win-win situation when your superior becomes sensitive to your struggles and support you and in return, you become more productive and organised and better capable to handle pressure situation.

Remember that if you have a Victim Mindset, you will be mentally disturbed and will under-perform in your work and will have the risk of losing your job. But when you join support groups such as Nyay Prayaas Foundation and develop Warrior or Victory Mindset, you will talk openly about the wrong that is happening to you and you will receive support from your superiors and managers at your workplace. Eventually, you will also be promoted in your job. So change your mindset to protect your job/work.

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